The Future

“What do you want for the future?”

I’ve asked this question, or ones similar, probably a million times…or at least thought about asking it that many times. I’ve asked of myself countless times, and I’ve asked it of others many more.

What do you want for the future? What is the future? Is it tomorrow, next week, next month, ten years from now?

I think we often get caught up thinking about the now, what we want in this moment. The reality, is, though, thinking and living moment to moment only gets us so far. Progress requires a certain level of intention. It requires risks, and the first risks we must take are imagining the impossible. If you feel as if you are stuck in life, in your job, in your relationship, in any aspect of life, take a moment and think about what’s really important.

How do you figure out what’s actually important about your life? It may seem morbid, but activity is to write your own eulogy.

Take a moment and imagine yourself at the ripe old age of 95 (or older!), and you’re on your death bed. What have you accomplished in life? When people think of you, what do they think? What aspects of your personality will they remember? Who is around you on your death bed? Your spouse/partner? Children? Grandchildren? Friends? What stories will they tell about you? Take a risk and imagine everything in your life goes better than planned. What would that look like? What would that feel like? Who would be in your life? If you lived your best life, what would you have accomplished for yourself personally, in your career?

After you’ve imagined all these things, take a moment and actually write it all down.  Using that, write the eulogy which would be given at your funeral.

If you feel like sharing, please add it the comments below! If you want to read mine, stay tuned to the next post!

Wholeness

Nzima means “whole.” While, in Swahili, the word does not allude to the idea of “wholeness,” it was an important word for me to choose.

Now, let me be clear. I don’t speak Swahili. However, I spent two months in Tanzania during one of the most difficult periods of my life. I had the opportunity for a fantastic internship. However, a few weeks before I left the country, my dad found out he was no longer in remission. A week before I left, a friend from high school was killed in a tragic car accident, and I couldn’t go to the funeral because of my travel plans. My world felt like it was crashing in on myself, and I was getting on a plane to go someplace where I didn’t know anyone and I didn’t speak the language. To top it off, once I got there, I started having medical issues which couldn’t be addressed until I got back to the US.

Even though I was only in TZ for two months, it was one of the hardest two months of my life. Even though the local people I was working with were fantastically friendly, I had never felt more alone. It took a long time to recover from the emotional toll.

But here I am. Stronger and happier than ever.  I feel I am finally understanding true wholeness.  I hope you decide to come on this journey with me.